Motivating More Long-Term Responsible Behavior
HOW THINGS ARE NOW
*Your child doesn’t do what they’re supposed to do… You have to ask them 5 times (and/or yell) to motivate them to do anything
*You’re often dealing with negotiations, power struggles, or meltdowns
*Things you’ve tried (punishments, rewards, behavior charts, bribes, etc.) haven’t work to motivate better behavior in the long run.
HOW YOU WANT THINGS TO BE
*Your child does something the first time you ask
*Even when they don’t feel like doing something, they do it anyway (with minimal complaining).
*Your child is actually internally motivated so you don’t have to be so involved
If things are not consistently the way you want them to be…
ask yourself these questions and use these tools for long-term change:
1. Are your rules firm (clear, enforced
consistently, and enforced without
2. Does your child have all the tools they
need to do what you ask?
3. Does your request immediately put
them into Yuck?
4. Do you have an effective plan for handling their
behavior in the moment?
Download a “pretty” version of this roadmap below:
PAST TRAININGS ON THIS TOPIC
MOTIVATING COOPERATION ON-DEMAND TRAINING
PAST LIVE TRAINING: How to Create Routines That Work (8/7/19)
PAST LIVE TRAINING: Teaching Kids the Tools They MUST HAVE To Behave (4/3/19)
PAST LIVE TRAINING: How to Foster Internal Motivation (6/7/18)
PAST LIVE TRAINING: How to Get Kids to Do More Around the House
PAST SCRIPTS ON THIS TOPIC