SREENI’S PERSONALIZED PARENTING PLAN
Your Personalized Parenting Plan will be created AS YOU GO THROUGH THE STAGES LISTED BELOW.
At each stage, you will will receive instructions for progressing to the next stage.
As you complete these stages, tools/tips will be added to your personal toolbox and plan.
Motivating more respectful behavior from Aishna toward elders
Focusing on consistency (link to come in Stage 3)
Modeling and practicing the behavior you want to see (link to come in Stage 3)
Teaching kids to regulate emotions (handle Yuck) (link to come in Stage 3)
Responding to disrespectful behavior in the moment (link to come in Stage 4)
Phrases to Use
Improving Aishna's cooperation during daily tasks
Gaining cooperation is about 3 things: 1.) Balancing firmness with respect, 2.) making sure they have the tools to do what you ask (ie, handling boring tasks, handling transitions, etc.) and 3.) handling Yuck
Proactively, it is important to teach the tools she may not have (like engaging her in boring tasks) and making deposits into emotional needs accounts so that you have more influence over her.
In the moment, use “Calm, Connect, Correct” to motivate better behavior.
Calm = you are confident and not controlled by your emotions
Connect = you see the situation from her perspective… why is she not doing what you ask?
Correct = give her the tools she needs to succeed. Sometimes that means re-iterating the boundary and letting her release Yuck.
STRATEGIES THAT HAVE WORKED FOR AISHNA TO MOTIVATE MORE COOPERATION IN THE MORNING
Having her brush her teeth and counting the direction of the brush
Putting on her pants with her eyes closed
Telling a story of a bad kid and the importance of school
STRATEGIES THAT HAVE WORKED FOR AISHNA TO PUT SHOES AWAY
Putting her shoes in the rack the “right way”
Asking her to tell you whose shoes are bigger
How to Do This
Helping Kids Handle Monotonous Tasks (Quick Win)
Helping Kids Handle Transitions (Quick Win)
Focusing on consistency (link to come in stage 3)
Teaching kids how to do what they don’t want to do (link to come in stage 3)
Depositing into emotional needs, especially Control (link to come in stage 3)
Responding to defiant behavior in the moment (link to come in Stage 4)
Phrases to Use
The Firm + Respectful Model
(This list will be built as you go through the program)
NOTES AND QUESTIONS
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