Library of
Tools for Long-Term Change
Show that you mean what you say
Identify which rules to enforce
Enforce rules consistently
Don’t be controlled by your Yuck
Have a plan for your triggers
Reduce Your Yuck:
Feel more in control in your life
Find more emotional energy
Feel more in control of your time and schedule
Set boundaries effectively
Reduce your fears and worries
Don’t be controlled by your kids’ Yuck
Handle Yuck / big emotions effectively
Care about your child’s perspective
Identify what is causing (negative) behavior
Teach tools for success
Identify which tools are missing
Find time to teach tools
Individual tools:
Doing responsible (boring) tasks
Handling transitions
Solving problems
Regulating emotions / handling Yuck and discomfort
Impulse control
Make deposits
Identify which accounts are low
Make a simple plan for consistent deposits
Tools for Handling Behavior In the Moment*
Calm: Learn to Stay Calm
Connect: How to Connect
Correct: How to Correct
Create a Calm, Connect, Correct Plan
*In the moment parenting is more exhausting and less effectively if you’re not working on the tools for long-term change.
Often the long-term tools take less energy… and focusing on those leads to much better results!